Feeling the Pride, with Kessonga

(mouse clicks) (bright music) Headspace Studios. Hi, Dear Headspace family, we are back. Today, it is me, my pal Kessonga, and Headspace Coach Shula is also joining us. We've got questions about obsessing over your teen's safety. We have a question about being jealous of others while being too hard on yourself. And since June marks Pride Month, we have a question about when your child expresses fluid sexuality. You know what we say, folks? Love is love. So here we go. Have you ever wished you had a wise meditation teacher on speed dial? Someone you can call after a long day. Someone you could lean on for their advice. Someone to listen and help you to see things differently. Welcome to Dear Headspace, a podcast where I sit with a meditation teacher and we answer your questions. Hey, you two, happy Pride. I mean, it's June. I just say that to everyone now 'cause why not Happy Pride, Robin. Happy Pride! Happy Pride, Shula. Yes. And I'm particularly feeling good because I do believe the weather has officially broken. Like it's thoroughly warm right now. I know, 'cause it's, it was a long winter for us east coasters, it felt like. Yeah. I always love when the weather officially breaks, like it's consistently nice and warm. Well, it's right on time for Pride. And as I said, I love any holiday where we celebrate love. So I can't wait for that question. But first we have a question from a mom who's struggling with control and concerns about her teenager. So here's Paula. Hi, my name is Paula. I'm from the Netherlands, and my question is the following. I have a 17-year-old daughter. She's very independent and self-assured, and she's starting to spread her wings now. And I'm very supportive of her, of the woman she's becoming. But at the same time, I cannot stop these obsessive thoughts about her safety. That if I'm not in the control of the situation, something terrible is going to happen to her. I have these obsessive thoughts of doom, that if she's, for instance, going to travel with friends, that she will be involved in a horrible car crash. Or if she's catching the plane, the plane will also crash. So I have these really panicking, obsessive thoughts. And this is starting also to affect our relationship because at the same time that I want her to be independent, I want to control everything bad that can happen to her. And I understand that this is not reasonable, but I cannot stop these obsessive thoughts. So I would like very much to have some advice of how to stop these obsessive thoughts and start supporting my daughter in a more rational way, if I can put like that. Thank you very much. Oh, thank you so much for this question, Paula. I mean, you've got two parents of teenagers with you right now, so I feel like this couldn't be better timed. And...