Overcoming Weather Blues, with Kessonga

(soft music) Headspace Studios. Hello everybody. Listen, it's a lovely day, and that means it's the perfect time for another episode of Dear Headspace. Now, today it's me, Kessonga, and head space coach Neca, and we are answering your questions. We have a question about when you care too much about what others think. We have one about how to manage strong emotions that are caused by the weather. And we have a question about how to process the end of a long-term relationship. So let's do this. (gentle music) Have you ever wished you had a wise meditation teacher on speed dial. Someone you can call after a long day. Someone you could lean on for their advice. Someone to listen and help you to see things differently. Welcome to Dear Headspace, a podcast where I sit with a meditation teacher and we answer your questions. Hi friends. Okay, I am loving the Kessonga and Neca combo that we have got going on today. Greetings. Greetings, Robin. Greetings Neca. Thrilled to be here. Same here. I'm excited about today. Me too. And now I'm excited about trying to work the word greetings into conversations. (laughing) That's another thing that everyone says I say a lot. Greetings? Greetings, yeah. But yous almost sound a little bit like an alien when you're doing it which I kind of love. Greetings. Greetings, earthlings. (laughing) Well, I am thrilled to have you both here and I am especially excited to hear your responses to today's questions, several of which may or may not apply to me. I will never tell. All right. Who am I kidding? I'm totally gonna tell. Okay. Alright, let's get to our first question from Kim. (gentle music) This is Kim from Texas. I care too much about what other people think and this gives me a lot of anxiety. So how do I learn not to care so much? For example, when I have a client emailed me asking why didn't I order this product or why didn't I do it this way? I can feel my heart race and the anxiety bubbling up. So how do I stop this cycle? I just like to not feel so anxious when a small question comes up regarding my work. Oh, thank you for that question, Kim. I'll tell you what, you two, this is just like having confidence in yourself and the ability to kind of like, not sweat the small stuff when people don't agree necessarily with what you do. That is just not an easy thing. Yeah. Two things. Well, first of all, Kim, thank you for your question. I want to first lead with that and it sounds like what may be happening here is what I like to call the formation of like an anxiety snowball. Ooh. So what happens with an anxiety snowball, and I'm very familiar with this, is what happens. It may be snowballing right now, Kessonga. Who can say? So what happens is,...