Self-care ideas that stick, even when you're busy

• When there’s more going on in our life, that’s when we need our self-care practices the most

• Self-care isn’t selfish: when we take good care of ourselves, we can care better for others, too

• Try 7 meditations for practicing self-care

Many of us know what it feels like when we neglect our well-being. Our body or mind eventually forces us to stop. Maybe we’ve been skipping the daily stretches that help us get through a workout and we get injured. Or maybe we’ve been working overtime without the rest our body needs and we lash out at someone close to us. When we aren’t taking good care of ourselves, we don’t feel our best or interact with others at our best.

Rather than view self-care as a nice-to-have or an indulgence, an internet trend or something only reserved for Sundays, we can look at this practice as part of our ongoing mental health self-care. As mental health experts note, we’re not paying attention to ourselves in a self-centered, narcissistic way, but in a way that makes sure we’re being cared for — for us and by us — by taking time to do things that help us live well and improve our health. Headspace meditation teacher Dora Kamau shares, “As human beings, we all have needs. We all have things that are truly important to us and create a sense of safety. When we don’t have our needs met, this can bring us to a place of frustration, anger, and distress.” The time we dedicate to self-care is just as important as everyone else’s time. When we make a point to nurture ourselves, we can care for others in a more meaningful and compassionate way, too.

A lot of self-care advice is focused on lists of things to do. But before we jump into list making, it can be helpful to remind ourselves of self-care essentials: compassion for ourselves, knowing our boundaries, and bringing that sense of awareness with us as we approach the world.

We can use mindfulness to help us develop these essentials, as well as to build one of the most important habits in self-care: to listen to our mind and body. If we speak to and treat ourselves gently and with kindness for whatever we need in that moment, we can be more honest with ourselves about what self-care ideas support us best. By approaching ourselves without judgment and practicing self-compassion, we might realize the self-care we’ve enjoyed in the past may not be helpful this time around. On the other hand, we might never have been drawn to certain self-care ideas until this very moment.

There are a few more basics that are fundamental to our well-being: eating, resting, and moving our body. Especially in difficult times, these essential practices are all the more important to help us feel our best. If we’re not starting from a healthy place, we can’t move on to discover new self-care practices that may benefit us. So maybe today, that means we need to work on one of these key areas first: focusing on mindful eating to take the time to be present while we nourish our body; ensuring that we’re getting enough rest, both when we close our eyes at night and when we recognize that our body needs a break; and exercising if and how we’re able to, whether that’s regular workouts or stretching at home.

If we’re set with the fundamentals, that’s reason enough to celebrate an important self-care practice that we’ve already established. And if we’re ready to add more, the care can continue.

Remember the “self” in self-care. We each come to it with our own perspective, and it’s not a one-size-fits-all kind of practice. Still, we can try these self-care ideas if we’re looking for a place to start experimenting until we find what works for us.

1. Meditation: Yes, it’s an obvious one, but it’s worth a reminder if it’s not already part of our self-care practice, or what we consider to be self-care. The benefits of meditation are well-known: reduced stress and anxiety, and increased focus and positive emotions. So when we sit in the present moment without judgment, we’re also taking time to care for our mind and in turn, ourselves.

2. Play: Many of us lose a sense of fun and play as we grow older, but it can be freeing and even connect to improved physical health. Research also shows that laughing is linked to reduced stress, tension, and anxiety, suggesting that it’s a valid form of self-care all on its own.

3. Gratitude: The simple act of writing one or two things we’re grateful for each day can help us avoid getting caught up in life’s frustrations, and recognize instead that we’re grateful for all that we do have. We might also find that when we take the time to make gratitude a part of our self-care routine, we can be grateful for that routine itself.

Looking for more meditations that help us find time to look after ourselves? The Headspace app offers members several courses and single meditations on self-care, including:

• Self-Care video

This exercise walks you through some helpful ways to relax and reflect.

• Time for Me meditation

Take the next few minutes to nurture yourself.

• Care for Caregivers expert guidance

Try these self-care tips from kids mindfulness expert Samantha Snowden.

• Self-Compassion course

Using the loving-kindness technique, you’ll uncover the self-love that already exists within you and practice unconditional friendliness toward your mind.

• Mental Health as Mindfulness meditation

Take stock of your feelings and honor them.

• The Science of Burnout expert guidance

Learn how to spot the signs of burnout and actively prevent it to bring your refreshed self to work.

• Alone Time meditation

Create a clearer, calmer mind that benefits not only you, but those around you.


So where do we go from here? All that’s left is to try, taking our time to experiment with different forms of self-care until we establish a practice that works for us. We’ll know it’s working when we find it easier to show up as our best selves — both for us and for those we care about.